07/30/2024
For those who need help regarding a domestic violence situation:
Are you being abused? It sounds like a silly question, but so many people don’t realize how not ok something is.
Abuse can happen to women, children, and men…no one is immune.
Just because they don’t physically hurt you, that doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. Things can escalate quickly and you need to be aware and cautious.
Isolation, gradually breaking your self confidence down, gaslighting, threats and name calling are indicators that you could be in serious trouble.
Leaving is absolutely necessary. It can be dangerous though, and needs to be planned carefully.
You cannot love away their hurt so they stop hurting you…it just doesn’t work like that.
There is help for abusers, if they are willing to take it. That being said, it’s not your job to fix them, and you can’t anyways. Prioritize your (and your children’s, if you have them) personal safety above all.
Yes, you should call the police if you are in fear for your safety. Even if you can only place the call but can’t talk.. turn your location on and leave the phone connected with the police so they can track you and assist.
Their actions are not your fault. Their abuse is not your fault. You are not stupid. It’s not too late to leave. Kids are better off coming from a broken home, as opposed to suffering in one any longer. You deserve better. You are not alone. There is help for you. You can do it. Stand up for yourself (and children). No one deserves to be abused, mentally, physically, sexually, financially or emotionally.
If you need to talk, I’m here.
Call or text Safe Passage in Kootenai County.
Safe Passage is a resource for those in a DV situation. They can help you (and children if you have them) get away safely, shelter you temporarily, assist with court, guide you on next steps, and lend advice. Every single one of them are caring, non-judgmental, and so helpful.