Cool Etiquette Club

19/03/2022

12/02/2022

02/02/2021

This is exactly how you hold a knife and fork. Always extend your index fingers to the neck of both utensils and be sure the handle of the utensil is in your palm, not sticking out the back of your hand.

Your knife is always in your right hand and fork in left regardless of which is your dominant hand. This is a global protocol and if done differently, it is noticeable. Let's try to appear more refined as we grow as ladies and gentlemen.

26/09/2020

MIND YOUR ENGLISH
*STOP BEING A HUSTLER.*

One of the most commonly used word in Nigeria today is the adjective -HUSTLER (and its verb - HUSTLING).
Hence, we regularly hear phrases like - "I just come back from hustling" , "He/ She go hustle", and "He/She is a real Hustler".

Ironically, over 70% users of these words in Nigeria don't know the real meaning of the words - HUSTLER and HUSTLING.

The Dictionary meanings of " *Hustler* " are : "Pimp", "Pr******te", "Petty-Thief", "Gi**lo" etc.
And many dictionaries attributes the words " *_Hustler_* " and " *_Hustling_* " to derogation.

Perhaps, you might want to grab a dictionary to check if you have your doubts about the actual meaning of " *_Hustler_* ".

Many years back, while reading the James Hadley Chase (and other crime series), I came across the word - *Hustler* severally in many of these books, and became familiar with its meaning and usage to describe a "Pr******te" or a "low life thief".

However, in recent times; I have had to correct a few friends on the incorrect use of the words - *Hustling* and *Hustler* especially when referring to themselves.
It is highly comical that daily, many Nigerians have expressively used these derogatory words wrongly to describe themselves in their bid to protray their positive virtue.
While in western worlds, describing yourself as a Hustler can easily have the law agencies on your heels, here in Nigeria it is common to hear many ignorantly describe themselves as Hustlers.

For Public Knowledge, this post is meant to draw attention to the widespread wrong use of these derogatory words, and also urge many Nigerians to desist from continually derogating themselves by the wrong use of these words.

*_Hustlers_* are Thieves and Pr******tes by dictionary meaning.
So if you are not a "Thief", " a Con", "a Pr******te" or " a Gi**lo", then stop calling yourself a "Hustler" or describing your Livelihood as "Hustling".

*Stop being a Hustler.*
Author unknown

18/07/2019

11/05/2019

Speak well...

09/05/2019

Eloquence. ..

19/04/2019

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT WILL HELP YOU:

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you & if you can't at a time, be humble when you are asked It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens, car, lunch boxes, charger etc.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you;

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For god’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, say thanks and try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Take off your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the mist of the poor, your marriage in the mist of singles. Your job or businesses in the mist of nor working one Similarly, don't talk about your children in the mist of awaiting parents.
May the grace of God help you to deal wisely. God bless you. Have Haven nice day.
Author unknown

13/04/2019

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