10/02/2025
Doing our part to spread health & wellness throughout Cornwall and to any who would benefit 😌🍏🍎🧖🧖♀️
Always remember that your current habits and responses to situations are not your identity.
In other words, they are not ‘who you are’.
Your current habits and actions are simply behaviours that you have adopted over your life to try and help yourself the best you can, along with what others have taught and at times even foisted upon you, whether their teachings, advice, and beliefs suited you or not.
For example, people may have told you that you aren’t capable of anything, and over time this has become your belief, and so you view yourself as an ‘incapable person’, taking others’ negative words and your own struggles as ‘proof’ of this ‘fact’ ❌
Rather than viewing yourself simply as a human being who has struggles and setbacks like everyone else on this planet, and with small consistent steps is able to move forwards, grow and improve, and that struggling has no actual bearing on your worth or capabilities as a person ✅
All of the greatest stories involve overcoming struggle.
When we say things like, “I’m an anxious person” rather than “I’m a person who currently struggles with anxiety”, or “I’m an unmotivated person”, rather than “I’m a person who currently struggles with motivation & consistency”, we are telling ourselves that our situations are unchangeable because ‘who we are’ is ‘fixed’, and therefore we are powerless to do anything about our situations.
Living a full life comes from being empowered, and empowerment doesn’t come from being perfect and never struggling. This is impossible.
Empowerment comes from being our own best friend and always having our own back no matter what is happening to us, around us, or the internal struggles within us 🤝🫶
We meet all situations both within and outside of ourselves with self- compassion, and then move forwards step by step.
So ask yourself, “how do I truly view myself?”. Do I view myself as worthy, capable, valuable, and deserving of respect and any time I falter and struggle, this has no baring on my capabilities of moving forwards, and value as a person?
Or do you say, “I’m unworthy, incapable, have no value, and allow others to give me no respect because why should they when i don’t respect myself”?
If it’s the latter, that’s ok! As we’ve learned, everything begins with self-compassion and we can create change. Start right here. ⬇️
Recognise you are a human being feeling human feelings and having human thoughts, just like everyone else.
Then ask yourself, what is a small step I can take today to help myself?”. This could be as simple as deciding to call a friend to talk, or talk with a partner.
Maybe even research on the internet a councellor, and then sending an email to connect.
Maybe it could be deciding to take a small step forwards with caring for your mental and physical health. Communicating with your family that you need a bit of time each day, or a few times a week, to unwind. Or looking into some more nutritious food choices that are maintainable, rather than a restrictive diet 🍓🍊🥘🌯
By remembering that our current habits and behaviours are not ‘us’, that they are not fixed, we immediately give ourselves the power to change, because we cannot change whilst convincing ourselves we are powerless.
Self compassion towards ourselves when life gets challenging, followed by small steps forwards through small consistent actions, are what create our journey through life 👣 🌎
And life is always better when you’re your own best friend, and treat yourself as such 😊😊
