09/05/2026
When the numbness of loss begins to thaw…
There can come a time in grief when the numbness that helped you survive the earliest days begins to soften.
And suddenly, you feel more.
More sadness.
More anger.
More longing.
More questions.
More awareness of the life that has changed forever.
You may even wonder, “Why does this feel harder now? I thought I was supposed to be getting better.”
But feeling more doesn’t mean you’re moving backwards.
Sometimes, it means your heart and mind are beginning to feel safe enough to process what happened.
In the beginning, numbness can be a kind of protection. It allows us to put one foot in front of the other when the reality of our loss is simply too overwhelming to absorb all at once.
As that protection begins to lift, emotions that were waiting underneath may surface.
Especially after su***de loss, there can be layers of grief that take time to emerge—love, anger, guilt, confusion, unanswered questions, relief, regret, and the ache of everything you wish could have been different.
This isn’t failure.
This isn’t starting over.
This isn’t losing all the progress you’ve made.
This is grief unfolding.
Healing doesn’t always look like feeling better. Sometimes it looks like becoming able to feel what you couldn’t feel before.
Be gentle with yourself when the thaw comes.
You are not going backwards.
You are learning how to carry what happened with a heart that is slowly becoming able to feel again. And that’s a good thing. ❤️
-Joey-
