Sought

25/04/2023

Update: extra tickets now available!
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HOW TO HAVE LIFE-CHANGING CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THE END OF LIFE

Join us at the Good Grief Festival on May 3rd at 6pm BST for this special online talk and Q&A.

I'll be in conversation with the wise psychotherapist and author Julia Samuel MBE. We'll be discussing how to prepare for and navigate conversations about death, dying and grief.

Many of us are scared to face mortality or talk to our loved ones about end-of-life care or death, and we may fear how people close to us might react should we breach the subject. In this session, we'll discuss how to approach these tender conversations, their impact within families, and how we might overcome any challenges we encounter – whether we want to talk about this topic or are struggling with it.

Free to attend but you'll need to register in advance.

Pass it on!

Register here: https://goodgrieffest.com/whats-on/



Week 2023 Dying Matters

22/04/2023

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🟣 Grief is a lonely experience. It's even more isolating if friends and colleagues, worried about saying 'the wrong thing,' simply stay away.

🔵 How could we do better? Well, here are some suggestions. They are all based on feedback from bereaved people, and taken from 'Listen.'

🟣 Don't avoid us. Please make contact. We don't have the energy to initiate contact, but we want to feel connected.

🔵 Say our dead person's name. Tell us your stories about them. Give us new glimpses of them.

🟣 It's awkward. We know. Don't let that get in the way. Be awkward and turn up. It's OK to say 'I don't know what to say.'

🔵 Don't give us platitudes, or try to cheer us up. Just be with us in our sorrow. That's how we feel right now, but company sometimes helps a bit. Try 'I'm sorry you're so sad' if you need to say something.

🟣 Don't ask us how we are. The world has changed so much we can't answer a question as big as that. Try 'How are you just now?' or 'Do you feel up to a chat today?' or 'It's good to see you.'

🔵 Offers of practical help can be welcome. Thanks for walking my dog, taking my bins out, bringing me a meal for my freezer, or calling from the supermarket to ask what I need.

🟣 When we're coming back to work or re-joining social activities, some of us would like support. Don't guess: ask us whether we want a card and flowers or just 'business as usual' on our first day back. Make it easier for us to get back into familiar routines.

🔵 Listen. Let us tell our stories, the sad ones and the happy ones. Sometimes, we want to connect to happy past events, other times we want to share our current sorrow.

🟣 Keep on checking in. Don't stop after a week, a month, a year. Grief has no time limits. Remember important dates if you can, but random contact is appreciated, too.

🙏🏽 Big thanks to my talented colleague Monica Lalanda for making this fabulous graphic from my book. Isn't it a great way to convey a message?

06/04/2023

The Sought App allows you to keep a record of the contents of your home; whether it be for insurance, the history of items for your family or to assist when allocating treasured items to loved ones - have your records, your memories or your wishes stored in one place.

29/03/2023

My Trove Website is an excellent way to advise multiple organisations of a death. My Trove has a verification system in place.

https://mytrove.co.nz/

24/03/2023

Grief is hard enough to deal with after the loss of a loved one. Misunderstandings over items that have sentimental value can add an additional layer of pain and conflict among family members.
Cataloguing loved items and recording your wishes is a gift for your loved ones.

Contact us if you would like to find out more about our cataloguing service.

We ease the stress of dealing with your loved one’s household contents. We offer bespoke estate management solutions which are professional, warm, caring, and approachable. Sought provides practical solutions

13/03/2023

Have you made an advance care plan?

In this long-form video interview, Rob Tobin speaks with pioneering palliative care physician and psychotherapist Dr Kathryn Mannix about how to support the best interests, values, wishes and feelings of people nearing the end of life.

03/03/2023

Now's a great time to catalogue your contents, whether it be for personal records, insurance or estate planning, having a photographic record of your possessions can make sorting in the future so much easier. The Sought App is available on Apple and Android.

16/02/2023

The Sought App provides an interactive platform that allows a user to store their estate planning wishes in one centralized spot. Along with these wishes comes the ability to link memories and photos to heirlooms to give additional information as well as the option of bequeathing sentimental items to certain people; Sought enables a person to provide an executor with full knowledge of desired gifting or probate without needing full ownership transferred before death. The Sought app can reduce stress and take the pressure off loved ones trying to figure out if something should be kept, gifted, donated, or sold; it makes this process so much easier. Find out more at: www.sought.co.nz

25/01/2023

When a family member or friend dies, you might not want to talk to anyone about what you’re feeling at first. Reading about death and grief, whether real or fictional, can help.

19/01/2023

11/01/2023

Ease the burden when a loved one passes away. The tasks that come with organising the paperwork and household possessions can be overwhelming, we are here to help.

25/11/2022

I'm a really good administrator - I love systems and processes. For 30 years I've used my skills to help others run successful streamlined businesses. Now I am using my skills for something I feel deeply about - helping people at a time when they really need support and someone with a plan. I can ease the feelings of being overwhelmed and allow my clients the space to grieve. Find out more about how I can help at www.sought.co.nz